Keep The Kid Inside You Alive
"Peace begins when the expectation ends."
Sri Chinmoy
(I never pondered the deep meaning hidden behind the line. The line deserves thought. When this expectation, which oozes for yourself or for your loved ones, we lose our power at that very moment; the power to make ourselves happy, no matter the circumstances.)
Expectations are the killers of gratitude, joy, love, laughter, compassion and many other positive feelings. As I see it, a kid is always at peace. No matter what, he keeps doing things that give him happiness. He is always resilient and carefree.
Many of us must have experienced scolding a kid and making him cry. He cries but quickly brings a smile to his face without too many conditions. He is just happy again forgetting what you said or did to him. He finds his own ways and reasons to be happy and lets go of things. He knows just to jump and dance and play around. He knows to fully enjoy the present moment; life.
One fine evening, I was with my daughter at the playground. While she was riding her cycle, one of her friends came across, my daughter lost control, and both fell off. They cried together for a while and said sorry to each other not asking who did what; they just felt sorry and hugged without thinking who should say sorry first. They started playing happily again, no feeling of revenge, no expectations; all they knew was they have some more time to play so just play.
This is something which we do not practice because we are grown up, right? And wouldn't it be really beautiful to not let the kid inside of you die?
Always practice resilience, practice forgiveness, love and practice peace.
- Why do we not dance when no one sees us?
- Why do we not scream when we are excited?
- Why do we forget to say thank you to a friend or loved one?
- Why do we not approach people and hug when they need it?
- Why do we forget it's okay to bring out the unhurried little person inside you at times?
- And do you know... it's also okay to allow yourself time to be lazy and unproductive?
Let's not search for happiness from outside people rather we can create and spread it. Expect less and Act more. Fear less and Love more.
Like the little kids, when we practice 'No Matter What', we are no longer hooked by expectations to externals --- other people, other events- --- but are free to choose what we will focus on to make us happy.
Life is like a bank account. Random acts of kindness, telling the truth, being loving, showing up for yourself and others --- these are all deposits.
Not being good to yourself or being unkind to others, letting your ego lead your choices --- those are withdrawals.
If we give more than we take, we progress. If we take more than we give, we regress.
Copyright © 2019 Manisha Shrestha Bundela
Dreams are vital. When you have a dream, you know you are human. Life without dreams, or better yet, life without action for the purpose of bringing those dreams into reality is not really a life. You work hard to surpass so many hindrances, face n number of competencies, encounter less situations for offenses and engage in tireless efforts to make your dreams come true.
They say that the hardest thing is to know yourself and when you do, you have mastered life.I look at myself as a dreamer, an optimistic lady with strong determination, a pleasing personality and am highly versatile. I have prepared myself for the toughest.
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Please read more of Manisha's writings:
What I Learnt From Saanu
Accept There Is A Path For You
Learn The Language Of Love from Kids
Pursuing Happiness