Today's "Something Extra"
Do you have a temper or issues with anger? Many people do. There is room for improvement, and saying sorry, repeatedly isn't going to fix it. Anger and tempers have destroyed more relationships than we can imagine.
How do you feel when someone says hurtful words to you or someone else?
Me? It bothers me. If it's someone I know saying it, our relationship changes. Yes, I can forgive them, but I don't forget it. The trust I had in our relationship will never be the same. How about you? How do you feel in similar situations?
It seems that snarky remarks, mean words, and hurtful words are flying everywhere, and I'm not fond of it nor want to be any part of it. Meanness has no place in a world if you want to be loving and peaceful. We have enough issues to deal with. Of course, people get upset at times but can't you raise your words and not your voice? Saying sorry just doesn't cut it.
Don't attack people. You may not like what someone is doing, which differs from not liking someone. As my mom used to say over and over again to us six kids, "If you can't think of anything nice to say, then don't say anything." Her advice and wisdom have served me well my whole life.
Bite your tongue before you speak, if you have to, and remember that once you say something, you can't unsay it, and what you do cannot be undone: a tough lesson to learn, but it will save you heartache and grief.
No one is a perfect person, and no one has all the correct answers. Think about your objective in any conversation - do you want to be effective, or do you need to be right? Do you want to show how powerful you think you are or want harmony in your relationships? Learn to control yourself and your emotions and remember you don't always have to say what you are thinking or feeling at the moment. If you do, you might have the best conversation you will ever regret.
Let's read about how a little boy learned to control his temper and his anger when his wise father taught him a lesson the Boy and The Fence
