April 10, 2000
Approximately 15 years ago I was at a friend's wedding and during the
speeches at the reception, the groom was thanking his parents for their
love and patience. His emotions got the better of him and tears began to
--- Copyright © 2000 Brian McKay --- Manitoba, Canada
Some at the wedding thought it showed a weakness in Warren.
As for me, these words came to my mind (I don't know if I created this
saying or if I heard it from somewhere else), and I am reminded of them
everytime tears well up in my eyes:
"Tears do not a man belittle - but rather a man they make."
Women just seem to naturally know how to cry. Their emotions are
stirred reading a book, watching a movie, grieving with a friend,
experiencing the pain their children experience.
Men have a long way to go
in learning, and I hesitate to use it, about their "soft side". We have been
taught by our fathers that tears are a sign of weakness, "Grown men don't
cry". Instead, we should be teaching our children that tears are a sign that
we have enough confidence in ourselves to be ourselves.
To be able to laugh so hard that tears run down your face is to experience true joy. To be able
to look up to a Heavenly Father with tears streaming down our face and say
"Thank-you for forgiving me" is to understand true forgiveness. To stand at
a grave side with uncontrolled tears is to say that you loved someone and
you are truly going to miss them.
Can a man really be complete if he suppresses the urge to shed tears, to
show his soft side? You have to decide that for yourself.