THE JOYS OF MOTHERHOOD
May 1, 2000
My husband had gone to Singapore on an office assignment for a year and
after a couple of months my daughter, Nichelle (aged 2 years) and I joined him. We
were staying as tenants with an elderly lady who was very loving and helpful
and treated us like her own family. My daughter loving called her Patti
--- Copyright © 2000 Sharon Pires --- India
She grew to love my daughter Nichelle very much as she was
very talkative and always kept her entertained. Things didn't work out for
us there and we returned to India. Nichelle is four now and I have a 6
month old baby girl Samara but we still keep in touch with Patti. Life now
has become very hectic since I've resumed office after my maternity leave.
Last week my husband had gone over to my mum's place to pick up Nichelle
from her grandma's where she was spending the weekend. I just put Samara to
bed and was getting things ready for the week ahead, when the phone rang and
I rushed to pick it up. It was Patti from Singapore. She was not too well
and informed me that her blood platelet count was falling. She wanted to
talk to my husband who is in the pharma line.
On his return home I informed him of her call and he contacted her.
She was thrilled to hear Nichelle's voice.
After the conversation, reassurance and goodbyes, my husband disconnected and I said to him,
" You always wanted to be a doctor, well here is someone who thinks you are."
"Yes", he said, "this was my unfulfilled dream."
"Maybe one day one of our girls will be doctors" I said.
"A doctor, not me mummy " Nichelle's replied as she was listening to the conversation
although busy with her painting.
"Maybe a teacher like Miss Zubeda Ali your class teacher" whom she is very fond of.
"No, not that too, " said Nichelle.
"Or a computer artist ,"chipped in her dad.
"No, you will never guess what I want to be" said Nichelle with a smile on her face.
"What baby," I asked her, "Tell mummy and daddy."
" I just want to be a mother when I grow up, just like you, mummy."
I went up to her and hugged my little girl and she smiled.
This was something we least expected to hear.
"Mummy I will cook, clean, give my baby a bath, tell stories, sing songs and do all the things you do for
This week I have been thinking about my little girl's dream to be a mother
someday. For the first time I realized the influence I had in the lives of
my children and motherhood took on a new meaning for me.
At times I admit, I
would get frustrated, and want to give up , just feel like relaxing, with
sleepless nights, crying babies, illness, my baby's first days at school,
teaching her the difference between right and wrong, household jobs that
seem never-ending, rushing to office and making it on time.
At times I felt
I could not cope but now everything seems achievable and worthwhile. Yes,
I'm thankful to God, my husband and children for the joys of motherhood and
also helping me realize more fully the great sacrifices my parents made for
me every step of the way, to help me be a better mother today.
To every mother, yours is a vital and important role in shaping the young
lives God has entrusted in your care. My 4 year old girl made me realize