Tips From A Personal Coach
December 7, 2007
Look Within To Find Happiness
A close friend said' "If I could only figure this out, I
think I could find happiness." I have heard this before and
will hear it again I am sure.
Many people want to believe that finding happiness is all
about finding something else they want. Not many have ever
found long term happiness by achieving another goal. The
answer to finding happiness is to look within.
In other words, happiness is completely an inside job. The
most important piece to finding happiness is to comprehend
happiness is a choice and not the result of an experience.
If all happiness could be found as the result of an
acquisition, meeting a goal, or having anything, then a
person's happiness would always be subject to something
Remember this: one definition of happiness is simply the
absence of an opposite emotion whether it is pain, sadness
or something else. If the opposite emotions are never
experienced then happiness can never be experienced either.
Think about it like this: bad times allow you to appreciate
good times; hunger allows you to appreciate food; and
sadness allows you to appreciate and experience happiness.
The dictionary defines happiness as enjoying, showing, or
marked by pleasure, satisfaction or joy.
How often do you hear... "I'll be happy when"? When I get
that job, I'll be happy. I'll be happy when I find a life
partner. I'd be happy if I had more money.
These, and all the other "if I had", scenarios are
following the same reasoning; that happiness is based on
If you base your happiness on external circumstances, you
will continuously fail to find happiness. There will
always, always be another external circumstance. There will
always be another dollar, another job, another house, or
another partner. Better, more, else.
To break this vicious cycle, we must find our happiness
somewhere else. That somewhere else is within. We have been
given everything we need to be happy.
Allow yourself to choose happiness. If life was perfect
would you be happy? Life is perfect because we create it
with our choices. Since we can create life, we can create
happiness - and how much better can it get?
When we can accept that life is perfect as it is and that
our lives are the sum total of everything that has happened
to this instant, only then can we accept the joy and
happiness we deserve.
I realize that this concept is very difficult for some to
accept. However, the alternative to being happy now is to
spend the rest of our lives seeking happiness as if
happiness was an item to be bought or found.
It's not. Just remember the saying - Don't worry - be
--- Copyright © 2007 Miami Phillips
Miami Phillips shares his experience coaching and consulting small business owners and executives on his website at:
http://www.miamiphillips.com (and try out
the free "3 Secrets to Happiness and Success".)
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