April 4, 2008
Use Empowering Words When You Talk to Yourself
(whether you are speaking out loud or silently)
How do you talk to yourself?
Do you use the words "can't", "won't", "don't need to", "why try"?
Many people do.
Do you find that what you say to yourself turns out to be true?
Why is this?
You see your brain is like a computer that you feed each day. It
doesn't know always know what's real or not unless you tell it.
Example: If someone you love has hurt you, you may tell
yourself that all people who love you will probably hurt you too.
Your brain just files this information for reference, it's data,
little zeroes and ones and no column that asks "true or not true?"
Now your brain thinks, based on what you told it, that everyone
you'll ever love will hurt you.
How do you think you will respond the next time you get hurt?
Now, what if we instead told our brain:
"Okay this person ripped my heart out - but that's only one person.
I'm lovable and have many loving people in my life who are not out
to hurt me. I know that the right people are coming into my life all
the time. If someone hurts me, I will forgive them and bless them
on their way."
Words can be empowering.
I love to
I want to
We can reach a new level of living, if we feed ourselves empowering
words and practice saying them until they become a habit.
I know first hand that it takes time.
And I also know that it's worth it.
Try it for a week.
Catch yourself saying, "I can't", when you don't really mean it and
instead try, "I can", and see how you think and feel about yourself.
Remember, the words you use to empower yourself
will have a lasting effect, only if you practice them and they
become a habit (an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed
until it has become almost involuntary).
They say it takes at least 28 days to develop a habit. After a week,
you will see that it becomes easier. It's a mindset and you can control
your thoughts. Be proactive and not reactive - give yourself some good
Dream big and empower yourself! Believe you can and you will.
--- Copyright © 2007 Marlene Blaszczyk
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