This is the origin of crime, war, and most other sources of human suffering.
I want to be happy and fulfilled. I want you to be happy and fulfilled. I've learned that happiness comes from within, by taking responsibility as an adult for my choices and outcomes. I've learned that I need to be "The Chooser" in my life and my heartfelt desire is that I can inspire you to be The Chooser as well.
You are never stuck! You always have choices, even if you don't know what your choices are. Don't allow impulse or lack of information to result in a poor choice.
Always assume there are more choices than you are aware of. Seek to identify a variety of the choices available to you, mindful that "you don't know what you don't know." Identify productive choices and don't settle for unproductive choices.
Use all the information available to you to make the best choice possible to achieve the outcome you desire. Evaluate a choice based upon the likely long-term consequences of that choice.
If you want to be the Chooser, here are some things you have control over and can DO (remember- CRAPGAP):
BE CREATIVE: Seek new ideas and opportunities beyond the immediate past and present
BE A RISK TAKER: Accept rejection and failure as part of life, and don't take it personally
BE ASSERTIVE: Ask for what you want, and say "no" to what you don't want
BE PROACTIVE: Don't merely react to events, or habitually wait for things to happen
BE GOAL-ORIENTED: Clearly define and vigorously pursue your goals
ASSUME ABUNDANCE: Believe there will always be plenty of opportunities and resources
BE POSITIVE: Always anticipate success
"Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make, both consciously and unconsciously. If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of all aspects of your life. You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself."
--- -- Senator Robert F. Bennett (R-Utah)
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