During one of my classes recently, I pointed out to my professor that he had spelled a word wrong. But instead of accepting it, he insisted that he was right.
Likewise, most of us are hesitant to accept our mistakes. Instead we attempt to show that we are correct by putting forth a thousand lame excuses.
When was the last time a politician accepted that he had been involved in corruption? Or when has a businessman ever admitted to fleecing his customers? Even when they are apprehended for wrongdoing, they continue to protest their innocence in court.
If someone points out that we are wrong, not only do we not accept our mistake, but we also pour our ire on him or her. Far from apologizing to them, we adopt a holier- than-thou stance.
For similar reasons, it is never the parents or the teachers who are in the wrong, but always the poor children. I personally know many people who have severed relationships only because they are advised to correct their mistakes.
I hear my friends in the west tell me how quick people there are quick to accept their mistakes and offer a swift apology. They never fail to say sorry when they are wrong.
I am in no way implying that the west is in anyway superior to the east, only we could learn a thing or two from them just as they might learn some etiquette from the east.
A friend of mine was denied the visa. However, when he demanded clarification, he was duly provided with one. My friend could then explain himself more clearly. Finally he was able to convince the counselor that he deserved a visa.
Accepting the previous mistake, the counselor even shook his hand and congratulated my friend.
In our country, the practice is just the opposite. No matter how weak our argument, we keep insisting that our long hair is nobody's concern.
For instance, I had never been aware that my habits and external appearance would be of anybody's concern. I kept justifying or refused to talk about it. But one of my friends pointed out that my hair was long compared to theirs. I quickly realized my mistake and got my hair trimmed the same evening.
Wouldn't it be a good idea if we could learn to accept and correct our mistakes before we point a finger at others?
Amanda Echols --- Submitted by Uday U. - Texas
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